The love we showed in courtship or dating, not only shows the world the love of Christ, but also prepares us for future relations. Today to relate to other people, we are establishing patterns that take us to marriage. Therefore not only we must practice love without pretense, but also the type of love that is founded on compromise.
Today we can see in our society too many divorces and deceit. You can do a simple Prue- How many of your classmates come from broken homes? I think this trend will increase more, to the extent that future generations are frequently involved in short-term engagements and also do so at earlier and earlier ages. It seems that courtship and dating as we know it today, did not prepare us for marriage, on the contrary, it can be a training ground for divorce. We can not implement a lifelong commitment, in a series of short-term relationships.
Does this mean we should marry the first person who crosses our path? No. We consider marriage very carefully and cautiously and be ready to end a relationship if God shows us that this is what we must do. It is unwise to rush into a marriage relationship, simply because we have been involved romantically with someone. The wrong mentality so prevalent today, is not related to the decision to choose a spouse.
Many of us have fallen prey to the idea that we should seek romance, just for the sake of romance itself. In other words: “I will have some level of intimacy with you, just because it feels good do it, not because I am considering seriously in prayer and marriage.”
This attitude is not fair to the other person and it’s a terrible marriage preparation.
Who wants to marry a guy to end a relationship begin to decrease as romantic feelings? Who wants to marry a person who has developed the habit of breaking their relations and goes in search of a new person when the slightest obstacle appears?
We must understand that the lifelong commitment that many of us are longing for in our future marriage, can not learn or practice a lifestyle of short-term relationships. Until we commit ourselves to ensuring that our relationships work for the rest of his life “and yes, it certainly is a big commitment” will be letting down others and ourselves, to engage in the meantime, in the short term loving relationships. True Love Waits, and not just sex. True love waits for the right time to commit to the love that is the style of God – unwavering, tireless and totally committed.